When my children first entered the world of IEPs, I thought I was ready. I trusted schools and teachers to know how to help my daughter, who has a rare genetic condition, and my son, who struggles with dysgraphia, dyslexia and ADHD. But I quickly learned that special education is not a world any parent is truly prepared for.
My first realization came fast: how completely your life changes once you step into the IEP process. Overnight, I was buried in acronyms, laws and long reports. I had to become an expert in data and assessments, not because I wanted to, but because it was the only way to make sure my children got what they needed.
The second realization was the cost. Doctors, private therapies, independent evaluations: layer after layer of extra expense stacked on top of the emotional toll. Families like mine are stretched thin, caring for our children while also struggling to pay for the very supports that make thriving possible.
The third realization was the heartbreak of disconnection. Each year brought new teachers and new teams, and every year felt like starting over. The binders piled up, more than a dozen of them, but the history inside those pages never carried forward. No one had time to understand the full story of my children. Not the teachers. Not the new teams. Not even the advocates who wanted to help. I became the historian of my children’s lives because no system existed to connect the dots.
I became the historian of my children’s lives because no system existed to connect the dots.
These realizations became the foundation of NFLI. Families should not have to fight alone. Data should work for us, not against us. And every child deserves to be seen for who they are, not just in this moment, but in the journey that brought them here. Because the problem isn’t just individual, it’s structural. Real change will only come when the whole system can see the truth: that students with disabilities deserve education that is consistent, equitable and rooted in understanding.
Sarah CoardFounder and President